How many of you live or lived with your current or past boyfriends before or without marriage?

I'm wondering if I'm just old-fashioned about this, but I don't want to live with DB until we're married. Yes, we're sleeping together already, but somehow my mind just draws the line at living together, or shackin' up. How do you feel about it? Did you or do you do it? And what was involved in the decision process to move in together? Do you think it helps/helped?

I guess one day I just imagine being carried over the threshold and building a new life together in a place that's ours. Not something that we've already shared.

I would have done it but we didn't-we were married first

WE are so funny. WE dont live together....just next door to each other! WE are waiting until we are at least engaged to move in together. I am so blessed that he was okay with this request! Its great though, hes so close but we have our own space

We moved in together 3 months after we started dating. The main reason we moved in together was because my mom was being evicted from her home and I didn't have anywhere to go. He was fresh out of the Marine Corps and tired of living with his mom so it just made sense to us. Sometimes I do regret it but it was a great way for us to get to know each other before we got married.... 3 years after moving in together :)

my high school boyfriend moved in with his best friend after high school and i moved in with them. it was great. dave and i moved in together 5 months before we got married. i do think you should live together first and make sure you can stand living with that person :o) but thats jmo

I don't ever want to do that either. I just think that I want to be married and then start fresh from the day after my honeymoon.
That is just part of the fairy tale i have for my life.

I lived with my hubby for 3 days before we got married...LOL!

You aren't the only old fashioned one Shannon! I wouldn't consider living with my DH before we got married.

We both live in the same building on campus so I'm in his room most of the time and we sleep in the same bed a lot. But I don't know how I'd feel about actually living with someone before being married to them. My brother and his fiance are living together. They have been for about a year and won't be married until 2008. I don't have a problem with it, but I don't think I would personally.

Russ and I aren't married, but we've been living together for about 14 months. I can honestly say that living with him has been a good thing for me. I have grown so much as a person over this last year. This isn't the first time for me, I lived with a boyfriend many, many years ago and I also lived with my ex-hubby for a short time before we got married, but for some reason I've learned so much more while living with Russ. Honestly, I don't know if I would ever want to live with anyone else before marriage, but I wouldn't trade these experiences for the world.

Josh and I rented our house in Sept because we had to jump on it them or we would be back to square 1. There wasn't many options here in this small town. We moved everything in it but didn't stay here. Then I got sick for about a week and he stayed here with me. And just never left. We ended up going ahead and getting married about a week later though... just so it looked better. His Dad is a preacher so they kinda pushed it and we already had invitations out for the wedding in November so we said why not? So we did. I think if it hadn't been for living here in the same city as his parents who are very religions and my parents thinking the same we would have just waited it out and lived together. And if he had stayed in the Marines I would have moved to NC and we would have lived together as well...
I also lived with my exdh before we got married... my parents were appaled since "i was raised better" lol

Chris and I lived together for 2 years before we got married. I guess everything worked out ok, we're still together :)

DH and I lived together for almost 3 years before we got married
We were totally committed adn knew a wedding was going to be in teh picture one day...we just didn't feel like rushing into one. If he wasn't military then we probably would not be married yet either...but moving and what not kinda got us on the ball there...lol

well i still live with my mom, but....i dont see anything wrong with living together before you are married. i would actually like to live with my future husband first, if able. :)

I never would have moved in with my DH before we were married. And not only that after we got married he went to Iraq for a year so a year after we got married we lived together.

i'm part of the old-fashioned crew. i know that our family members would also frown upon it. when we get married, we'll live together. that is when we'll really start a life together.

guess i'm not old fashioned in this sense.....I've been living with Matt for a little over a year. We were engaged when we moved in...but i wouldn't trade it for the world. No regrets at all.

My fiance & I have lived together for about 3 yrs now..I never thought I'd do it either, but it happened :D Great way to find out what marriage will be like!! I feel like we've been married for a looong time already!! :)

we lived together for 3 weeks before we got married. Just took that long for him to get a day off for us to do it! LOL

I'm awfull! I moved out of my parents house when I was 18 and moved in with my now ex boyfriend. We lived together for 5 yrs. When our son was a yr and a half we broke up and I moved out. Because he cheated. The guy i'm with now we moved in together just a few months after dating and we are still together. Not sure if we will ever get married!

I never actually lived with him before we got married but we were with each other pretty much every night so it was like we were living together. We were either at his parents or my parents house. So it was kinda like we were living together but we werent. :teehee

yep we live together and have for awhile and I wouldn't change it. I think you learn a lot about a person's personality and habits by living with them. Trust me I lived with an ex and he definetly showed his colors plus the way he lived I couldn't live with. He was by far the sloppiest person I knew. Db and I are not NEAT freaks but we seem to match. I love that I chose to live with him before we got married. maybe that's just me though :dunno

well, we live together yes. We did the Long distance thing for awhile (he actually has a house) and was living there. Its 2 hrs away from where I live, but the driving back and forth every weekend wasn't cutting it. We both have dogs, so we had to bring the dogs, etc.. It just wasn't worth it, imo. So, he let his sister and her kids stay in his house and he moved in with me! Worked out perfect!:yeehaw And, I hated missing him, especially when he had to work the weekends:hissyfit and I had to wait even longer, or when I had to work........and driving back on sunday with 2 kids and the dog, unpacking, etc.....we wouldn't get to bed until 11pm sometimes midnight:arg

I dont really have a preference... I married then moved in together (ex hubby)... then I lived with a bf for years. I know that I like to have my own space or room just for when I need it... didnt have that when I was married.
I dont think either way made much of a difference to me.