If someone told you that you were dealing with your loss incorrectly?

I would tell them to go to hell. Who's to say what the right and wrong way is for you to mourn YOUR loss?

I'd tell them to shove it up their ass!

I would say "how can you tell me what is the wrong way for ME to grieve???" right after I stold them to shove it where the sun dont shine.

ok, thanks ladies for you input

we lost our daughter in a car accident she was only 17 .. she died sept 11 07 ... if someone would tell me that they would get an ear full..

everyone deals with the loss of a child ,friend , family memeber diffferantly.. there is not just one way to greive...

Everyone thought we was crazy because we went back to work hubby went back 2 weeks later , I was off a month but I was having blood pressure problems also...
There is times I can go on like she is still with us there is other times I just want o sit and cry and think the world is ending ...
Dont ever let anyone tell you how to deal with loosing a loved one..
send them my way I will straighten them out for ya.. HUGS

we lost our daughter in a car accident she was only 17 .. she died sept 11 07 ... if someone would tell me that they would get an ear full..

everyone deals with the loss of a child ,friend , family memeber diffferantly.. there is not just one way to greive...

Everyone thought we was crazy because we went back to work hubby went back 2 weeks later , I was off a month but I was having blood pressure problems also...
There is times I can go on like she is still with us there is other times I just want o sit and cry and think the world is ending ...
Dont ever let anyone tell you how to deal with loosing a loved one..
send them my way I will straighten them out for ya.. HUGS

this is good advice. the first thing to know is, everyone takes as much time to grieve as they need to. i had a miscarriage at 7 weeks gestation and did not fully accept what happened til about a month after the due date passed. it has been 4 years and i still from time to time grieve.

I have had it happen on another board. It sucks. It made me question myself. I thought I was doing good and then this person that I didnt even know said I was unhealthy and not taking care of my other kids. Then I got pissed.

Dont ever let anyone tell you how YOU should grieve. No one knows how they will react till they are there. And even then, everyone is different. The way DH and I have/had dealt with this completely opposite. But we still talk and he is still there for me.

Well basically everything has been said. I don't know if I would even dignify that with a response to be honest. I would probably walk away...if it was on a board I would probably ask that the thread be closed. I know it would be a LONG time if ever that I decided to speak with that person again.

I agree with all of the previous posts! I was told by my ex's sister I'm stupid & "people don't 'celebrate' that stuff" when she called me on June 8th a few years ago. I was sad & not wanting to talk & she thought I was dumb for being depressed. June 8th is the day my 1st daughter (2nd child) was still born. I said it was the 3rd anniversay of it. I was LIVID! I wasn't "celebrating" it, I was remembering & mourning it! HELLO????!!!!