Its been a while since my daughter passed and I can talk about her without getting upset but if i watch a movie or something that reminds me of losing her, is start crying. I am wondering if i really am living in the past with her or if its something.

It's been 8 1/2 years since Morgan died & I still cry! I don't cry every day or even every week, but I find myself thinking of her & what it would have been like if she hadn't died. It's very normal to feel this way! Don't ever feel badly for how you feel. My ex husband & I split 14 months after she died. He said I grieved too much, I said he didn't grieve enough. Honestly we just didn't love each other anymore. I would never tell anyone they were wrong for grieving or getting sad from time to time. You will slowly get to where you can talk about her & smile a bittersweet smile:) I will pray for you!

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Maybe it makes you think about how life might be different if she was alive? I'm probably not much help, but I just want to remind you that you can talk to me whenever you want about anything:hugs

Thanks so much, you are a great help. Sometimes wanting her or wanting a baby period takes over and i get so mad and depressed. I dont even go to any of the mothering threads. i know i may be acting stupid but i just dont know how to change the feeling.

You're not acting stupid. Maybe you just know that it will be too hard to read the threads. So that would be a smart thing not to read them.

I can't say I understand b/c I myself have never lost a child aside from very eary term miscarriage. But I think that it's probably normal to mourn the loss for a very long time. I'm not sure anyone really gets over it.
My father died when I was 16. I'm 28 now. To this day I can talk about it but I still get choked up and watching certain movies I still cry. I don't think I'll ever not mourn in that matter. And that's ok.
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Thanks so much, you are a great help. Sometimes wanting her or wanting a baby period takes over and i get so mad and depressed. I dont even go to any of the mothering threads. i know i may be acting stupid but i just dont know how to change the feeling.

No that's not stupid. It's painful to you. Nothing stupid at all about that.

losing your child is a big deal hun, that phrase "your children are suppose to outgrow you, not the other way around" rings true. just know you are doing everything you can and you are a wonderful person full of love.

have you tried having a day specially dedicated to her? that might help you to ust be able to think about her without feeling upset.

losing your child is a big deal hun, that phrase "your children are suppose to outgrow you, not the other way around" rings true. just know you are doing everything you can and you are a wonderful person full of love.

have you tried having a day specially dedicated to her? that might help you to ust be able to think about her without feeling upset.


yeah, its usually the anniversary or around it. i try and go see her grave when i am feeling down.

I am still pretty new walking down this road. A lot of things still set me off in tears. There are a lot of threads that I have to avoid still at this point. I am still bitter when it comes to some things. I have a friend who lost her son 30 years ago and there are still things that will send her to tears today. You're not living in the past. In those moments you are remembering the future that you lost. :hugs

I can't imagine going through a loss like that. I lost a baby in an early term miscarraige and I still tear up or even cry about it sometimes. I don't think you are childish or irrational or anything. I think you are just dealing the only way you know how to. Don't be so hard on yourself! :sadhug

I didnt know this group was here... I lost a daughter at 21 wks, in 1995. Her grave is in Michigan, we are in FL. / I also have had 3 miscarriages, most recently one year ago.
You are NOT alone, nor unusual; it's been a year since my M/C, and I canNOT go on to "Mothering/Preg." threads . I find myself obsessing sometimes, esp. over this last one.'
My daugher who died in 1995-her name was Holly. We have a memorial garden for her in our back woods, with an angel statue. It helps me b/c her real grave is Soooo far away.

I know i obsess over it but the want is so bad that sometimes i dont know what to do with myself. i feel sometimes like GOd is playing an awful joke on me and ii will never get what i want...