I was just wondering how many step-mom's were on this site when I found this forum. My Fiance and I have a unique situation. His ex is currently living with my ex husband. Honestly, I don't really know how it happened except that it did. We constantly have people teasing that we just "switched partners." :screwy Between the 4 of us we have 5 children. 2 are mine and my ex's biologically, 2 are my fiance and his ex's, and one is hers from a previous fling but my DF has raised him as his own. It gets tricky sometimes but so far we all get along which is amazing considering how much I dislike my ex. We get his kids (all 3) every weekend and things are going pretty well. The kids are all excited to become step-siblings and they get to see their non-custodial parent more than before due to the arrangement. I know that this is not always gonna be easy I have days when I wanna :hairoutbut I couldn't be happier. The children are ages 7, 5, 4, 3, and 2.

very intresting. dont worry about what others say. as long as it works for you guys that is all that matters. but you also have to consider how is this affecting the kids. those are the ones you have to think about .

I am so glad you guys are making it work so well. It sounds like you're all really making it about the kids and that's always the best thing. Good luck with everything girl, I am so glad to hear that things have turned out so well.

That's great that you guys are making it work!

I'm glad that my ex is with her because it makes me feel so much better about sending my kids for vistation. My ex has recently developed some neurological issues and keeps having seziures. He can't be alone with the kids because of it. I know that she will make sure they are taken care of when they are there. All I think about is the kids and it's hard to know what's best sometimes even when you are in a nuclear family. I'm studying psych and sociology and I know all the stats on blended families and divorce and the effect on kids. There is no research on situations like ours so I have to go with my gut. My kids are happier now than they were before, they see their dad every weekend and we are all able to co-parent peacefully and we couldn't get along before. Somehow it works for us.

You aren't the only one. I have a situation like that but it's kinda strange. My husband now and his ex wife well they let me and my ex husband live with them a LONG time ago. Nothing ever happend we just had a fling for eachother but nothing serious was going on then. Well my husband now found out I was divorced from my ex husband and then he left his wife and came after me. Now we are married together. His ex wife and my ex husband see eachother now and then and talk about Mike and I. which is so funny. I have 2 with my ex and he has 2 with his ex and then we have one together. Strange I know. We never see his kids because she doesn't let us. Until he goes to court in Feb. Let's hope for the best outcome when he goes.

Thats great that you guys can all get along. I have a unique situation as well. My husband and my ex-husband have become best friends!! Odd - but it works...

Thats great that you guys can all get along. I have a unique situation as well. My husband and my ex-husband have become best friends!! Odd - but it works...


Are you serious. my husband and ex husband would kill eachother:(:voodoo

Are you serious. my husband and ex husband would kill eachother:(:voodoo

Serious! Chris and I had been separated for 2 years before we got divorced. About 3 months after we divorced, I met Kevin. We dated a few months before he and Chris met. They hit it off! It works. It's wonderful for Morissa. AND Chris is like an Uncle to Matt (Kevin's son from his first marriage). We have a VERY functional mixed-up family. Chris isn't like an 'ex' - just a former. He's still family.

It's good that you are happy with your situation!