Do you ever worry about growing apart when you're long distance, or do you feel like the distance pulls you even closer due to the shared experience and having to really make an effort to be in touch?

When he first left, I felt as if we were growing apart. I detested him for doing it. However, more recently, we have such a stronger connection that he's away. It's really an odd feeling to have. It's made our love truer & stronger, even though he can be a HUGE pita at times :lol I thought that I'd be more of a basketcase than I am, but in a way, it's helped me grow as a wife, woman & mother being on my own. The distance is definitely making our relationship stronger somehow.

Blah... LDRs suck... that's all I have to say.

Okay, I have more than that to say. For the first two years it was really romantic. It was kind of a love/hate thing. I hated being apart, but I loved sending packages and letters, and the amazingness of seeing each other after being away from each other so long. It was romantic in a way, even though it was awful -- especially the goodbyes! So, in a way, it did bring us closer to each other, just because we put in so much effort into keeping in touch and keeping the flame alive.

But, now, I'm getting to the point where I'm just like what the heck! PLEASE END ALREADY! After so long, it gets tiring. You also start to grow apart a little. Which really starts to take a toll. At least in my LDR (I'm sure it's not the same for everyone). Less than 2 years to go though! I can't wait! Haha. But, I think now we're really comfortable with our relationship, because it's part of the routine. So we don't really worry about anything happening to it. But, in turn, we don't really do as many sweet things for each other anymore... which, I feel like should be rekindled.

I hope my answer made sense and wasn't too long!

I'm kinda worried when DH goes on deployment that we'll grow apart. We've never really been apart more than a month to 2 months since we got together almost 4 years ago. I think this is really going to test us.

I think that having to always put effort in to talking, seeing, etc. your SO makes it sweeter when you are together, but its still hard. People always are going to grow, you just have to accept that you will both change over time (together or not). When you're together, it seems more gradual, which is why it might seem easier to accept changes in that instance.

Our deployment cycles were opposite so it pretty much went like this....

October 2005 - We met.
November 2005 - I deployed.
February 2006 - I came home for two weeks of leave, we got married.
October 2006 - I came home.
November 2006 - He deployed. The next day I found out I was pregnant.
July 2007 - He comes home on leave and meets his three week old son.
January 2008 - He comes home.... the rest is history.

So as you can see, we have been separated the majority of our relationship and made it through two deployments after only 6 weeks of dating before the first one!

For us the distance only made us stronger because after all the stuff we went through over there, we just decided our relationship was so much more important than anything else and we really worked on it. And the most beautiful part about our foundation is it was built solely on talking and not a physical attraction..... we spent our first year of marriage finding out EVERYTHING about each other!!

I do know that the distance can break up marriages..... our friend Megan and Jamie divorced just a month before he was suppose to return..... they couldn't take it and the distance broke down their communications.... the fact that neither had been in each others shoes was their demise. They didn't understand each other! We were lucky in that way, we'd both been in the others shoes during the first deployment.

Sorry that was long, but I definitely know a bit of LDR's!!

i feel like ive grown apart from adam, it sucks soo much, i havent had any time to write him letters, or send him boxes, i still have one in my living room ive been meaning to send for the last month.

we email, but its nothing personal, same things "hey, hope your well, i love you"

:( sigh

For me it's both. I do fear about growing apart and in alot of ways it seems like we do during the deployment but when he gets home it seems we're closer then ever!

Sometimes i feel like we are growing apart when we don't talk really talk....which i hate.

My last long distance relationship made us grow completely apart, leading to him cheating and a break up. My current long distance relationship has made us so much closer. I guess it depends on the people involved.