They recently opened up a Ruth Chris's Steakhouse in Va Beach. We were talking about weddings (they were on tv or one of my friends was getting married or something like that) and he said that if he ever got married, he'd have his engagement dinner there back home because it's just the best like EVER.

I really love him. He is the sum of all of my good parts. However, he's been burned. Upon entering the Navy, his fiancee left him because "living in a small town and not having someone physically there was too hard" :rolleyes. The second girl, he was best friends with online for a couple of years and they met and dated and became engaged. She cheated on him. Again he found a girl that couldn't handle the distance. The last girl he dated after we met. (I was 16 when we first met and he was going on 21.) She got highly upset because he still talks to his second fiancee (they have a son together) and caused many MANY problems for him.

Saying he's cautious is an understatement. He's already said he doesn't think he'll ever get married even though he'd love to settle down. Since he was good friends with all of these girls before they dated, he refused to say the words "*****, you are my girlfriend". The way he explained it was "I'd rather have you in my life as my friend than not in my life as an ex". http://www.lovinmysailor.com/forum/images/smilies/sadeyes.gif He's just convinced he's damaged goods.

When he gets home, I would LOVE to take him to Ruth's Chris. I'd also love to give him a promise ring of sorts symbolizing that no matter what I care about him as a person, respect his choice to serve our country via the Navy (it's important to him; he's the first of three generations to not be disqualified due to medical reasons), and that I will never come between him and his children.

The ring I would get him would be this:
http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/d...uct_id=wed224S (http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/detail.asp?product_id=wed224S)

or

http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/rings.asp (http://123celtic-irish-jewelry.com/rings.asp) (the one on the right)

So....should I? Shouldn't I? We'll have known each other 3 years in August and we've been relatively exclusive since Jan 2007.

I'm saying go for it. You should do what you feel in your heart, so if this is something that you think will show him just how you feel, then I say do it. :yes

I'm saying go for it. You should do what you feel in your heart, so if this is something that you think will show him just how you feel, then I say do it. :yes

Thanks. They both have Love, Loyalty, and Friendship inscribed on them. I just think it would fit.

I (L) the first one! :thumbsup

6 months into my Relationship w/ my husband, I thought up the ideas of Promise Rings.. For both of us. I was so nervous to bring it up to him, not knowing if he'd like it, or what he'd think about it. And he loved the idea. And wanted to go ahead & get each other one. We just got a simple mens Wedidng band.. VERY simple. They match. And we had "I Promise" put on the inside of them. To this day, he wears it around his dog tag chain all the time.

I know that it's a bit different. But what I am getting at is to follow your heart. If you think it'll be a good idea, and you want to do it, go for it! You may be surprised with how he reacts. At the same time, I think you should write a note to give to him at the same time you give him the ring, telling him what it symbolizes to you. So he doesn't get freaked out or anything.

I actually proposed to Jake, so I never had the fairytale proposal, but I am happy with it. It was so cool for me to ask him he said.

I think you should go for it, especially if he is so utterly cautious about the relationship at hand. I (L) the idea of the claddagh too, since it does have the love, loyalty & friendship on it. Just from what you wrote, I think it would really mean a lot to him :yes Let us know how you make out :happy

I say go for it.

Thanks girls. I think I'm going to do it. We've seen a lot of different sides of each other so I think we could handle this.

Could the girls that said no give me some insight as to why? I want to see all different opinions.

If I were to do this, how would I get his ring size? He's deployed.


His hands are larger than mine, but maybe I could size the ring to fit my thumb? And it'll fit one of his smaller fingers?

I gave my DH a Promise Ring and he gave me one as well! His was just a white gold/yellow gold mix band with crosses on it. He loved it and wore it on his ring finger till we got married and replaced it with his nicer band.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v92/paulncori/JoshsPromiseRing.jpg
I really LOVE the 1st band you picked out! (L)

I said other. I'm not really sure....it's a tough decision and I don't know much about the situation. Is it long distance? How often do you see each other/talk/go on dates? If it is something that you think you two are truly ready for then I would. If you have any doubts at all....I would wait. Good luck!

I said other. I'm not really sure....it's a tough decision and I don't know much about the situation. Is it long distance? How often do you see each other/talk/go on dates? If it is something that you think you two are truly ready for then I would. If you have any doubts at all....I would wait. Good luck!

We live together. We try to do something fun outside of the apartment at least once a week. We love to sit in and watch movies or our favorite shows on DVD.

I would just get the standard size for a man...then you can always resize it later. A lot of places have free resizing if you bought it there.