I've NEVER wanted children, I've always felt like I just am not ready and I don't think I ever will be. I've always said that my plans for the future just don't include children. But lately, I have been thinking about it A LOT :shock. I don't know if its because I know my marriage is ending and that slight possiblity is not there anymore or at least won't be for a long time, or I don't know. I know I'm not preggo, but I keep wondering, what if I was? What would I do? Knowing that I would be a single mom? I mean I couldn't even handle the thought of having a child while married, LOL, the thought of being a single mom should be absolutely frightening! But the more I think about it, the more I keep thinking, man I really would love to have a child fathered by him. What the heck is going on with me :screwy, can anyone explain it?

I mean I still know I"m not ready for a child, but why has this thought been creeping up on me so much? I mean, I'm on the pill, no kind of symptoms or anything, but I still think, hmmmm, what if I took a preggo test? LOL, am I nuts or what? Is it the "almost 30" syndrome or something???:puzz

:hugehug sweetie, i can understand at least a little bit of how you're feeling. i was NEVER sure i wanted children, and i figured that if i did, i would wait until i was about 30, when DH and i were well established and i had finished school. Then i got pregnant with Christian, and everything changed. now... having children is all i can think about.

:hugehug you're going through some MAJOR life changing stuff here, and it's totally natural to be thinking about it. keep in mind that you can always look at things again in a year or two when your life is more calm. :hugs believe me, finding yourself suddenly reconsidering EVERYTHING about children is scary and crazy, but with all the crap you're going through it's totally normal. i'm always here if you want to talk.

I just want to say that its normal, just give yourself time and figure out exactly what you want. I am here if you need me

That kind of happened to me a couple years ago. I really thought I never wanted kids and then it was like, all of a sudden, one day I just DID. it was really weird. And then about a year ago it started really sinking in and I really started wanting kids.

That is what has been going on with one of my girlfriends. for the longest time she was anti-children since the thought of having her own repulsed her. But then as she's gotten older, she's felt her biological clock ticking and its scared her how she now can't wait to have children of her own:) so I think it's a completely natural process to go through.

I have ALWAYS wanted children. I have been wanting another one really bad lately even though I know it wouldn't be a good idea.

That is what has been going on with one of my girlfriends. for the longest time she was anti-children since the thought of having her own repulsed her. But then as she's gotten older, she's felt her biological clock ticking and its scared her how she now can't wait to have children of her own:) so I think it's a completely natural process to go through.

See I adore children, I'm not repulsed by the idea in any way, LOL. I have just never felt like I wanted children of my own. I"ve just always felt like there is so much I want to do with my life, and none of it involves kids. And I just know I"m not mentally ready, I feel like I"m still kind of a kid myself, maybe a little selfish, where I want everythying just for me, LOL, I'm not ready to share my money :P. Its just the 'idea' of a child that intrigues me. And you see, its not just any child, its the idea of a child with J specifically. I want HIS child, LOL. That's why I'm wondering, is it just me wanting to keep a piece of him knowing that he's leaving? Then thinking of what that baby would look like, I get all googly, because not to be conceited or anything, but I think we'd make fine looking babies :teehee :tease. I dunno, these conflicting feelings are too weird for me to handle right now, lol

:hugs got no answers for ya, sorry LOL