Shannon
03-18-2008, 10:16 AM
Alright, so let me tell you funny story of the week. I had sent an e-mail to this guy, that in his personal ad said that he was taking a break from dating. I thought it was funny and congratulated him because I was in the same boat - and was just keeping up the page for like friends/activities, etc. But apparently this was all just a ploy to lure in girls.
Now I thought it was harmless 'cause he wasn't very good looking. I figured he really wasn't interested in dating. But he had a dog and we agreed it might be fun to hang out, play a board game, meet his dog, etc. He was calling it a "nondate", which I thought implied that it wasn't a real date. What I now realize was that these nondates were really "real dates that he was trying to make feel like a nontypical date with nontypical activities in order to make it less awkward."
Ooookay. Clearly I got on the wrong boat.
So we had fun, chatting and hanging out. The second time we hung out it was with his friends, so again nondatelike. I kind of picked up on the date vibe when his friends referred to me as his date. He had bought tickets and food, so when we went the bar, I covered drinks. It's only date-like if he pays, right? He had also tried to hold my hand a couple of times that night, which was just awkward. And then at the end of the night he tried to kiss me goodbye and it was a bad kiss - no chemistry, just a damp peck. All throughout the night I'd been discussing what I did and didn't want, disagreeing on a number of things, I thought. Making it clear that I was coming from somewhere else. Apparently not.
So he wanted to take me on a real date this past week. I was sick and stressed with the insurance business and I canceled a couple days in advance. He kept suggesting times this past weekend, but I just wasn't feeling it. I wanted to rest and have personal time. He e-mailed saying it was cool anyway, 'cause he was sick too. On Saturday I felt like I needed to call him, even though I didn't want to hang out. We went back and forth on him wanting to come over and watch a movie with me. As the conversation progressed, I was just tired, had no voice and couldn't entertain. I also realized that I was going to have to nip this in the bud. I told him that I think I really needed to stand by my original desire not to be dating, that I thought hanging out would be fun as friends since we still had a lot of interests in common. He was all silent. I asked if he would be cool with "hanging out, just without the romance factor." He was like "Uh..I dunno, we'll see." Then said goodbye.
So I get this e-mail yesterday morning from him that is long and tedious. Saying that he's sorry to have been stressing me out. That if its only that, we don't have to see each other very often. If I'm not attracted to him, then to just say so. Then he explains how its like in When Harry Met Sally, that he doesn't believe that a man and woman can be just friends. That he's really attracted to me, so it isn't going to work.
:rolleyes What a pussy.
So anyway, no real loss, but what ticks me off is that with the immaturity of a rejected preadolescent, he deleted the Scrabulous game we were in the middle of playing. Seriously? I guess its only tolerable to have a girl kick your ass repeatedly in a boardgame when you think you're going to get some action out of it.
Now I thought it was harmless 'cause he wasn't very good looking. I figured he really wasn't interested in dating. But he had a dog and we agreed it might be fun to hang out, play a board game, meet his dog, etc. He was calling it a "nondate", which I thought implied that it wasn't a real date. What I now realize was that these nondates were really "real dates that he was trying to make feel like a nontypical date with nontypical activities in order to make it less awkward."
Ooookay. Clearly I got on the wrong boat.
So we had fun, chatting and hanging out. The second time we hung out it was with his friends, so again nondatelike. I kind of picked up on the date vibe when his friends referred to me as his date. He had bought tickets and food, so when we went the bar, I covered drinks. It's only date-like if he pays, right? He had also tried to hold my hand a couple of times that night, which was just awkward. And then at the end of the night he tried to kiss me goodbye and it was a bad kiss - no chemistry, just a damp peck. All throughout the night I'd been discussing what I did and didn't want, disagreeing on a number of things, I thought. Making it clear that I was coming from somewhere else. Apparently not.
So he wanted to take me on a real date this past week. I was sick and stressed with the insurance business and I canceled a couple days in advance. He kept suggesting times this past weekend, but I just wasn't feeling it. I wanted to rest and have personal time. He e-mailed saying it was cool anyway, 'cause he was sick too. On Saturday I felt like I needed to call him, even though I didn't want to hang out. We went back and forth on him wanting to come over and watch a movie with me. As the conversation progressed, I was just tired, had no voice and couldn't entertain. I also realized that I was going to have to nip this in the bud. I told him that I think I really needed to stand by my original desire not to be dating, that I thought hanging out would be fun as friends since we still had a lot of interests in common. He was all silent. I asked if he would be cool with "hanging out, just without the romance factor." He was like "Uh..I dunno, we'll see." Then said goodbye.
So I get this e-mail yesterday morning from him that is long and tedious. Saying that he's sorry to have been stressing me out. That if its only that, we don't have to see each other very often. If I'm not attracted to him, then to just say so. Then he explains how its like in When Harry Met Sally, that he doesn't believe that a man and woman can be just friends. That he's really attracted to me, so it isn't going to work.
:rolleyes What a pussy.
So anyway, no real loss, but what ticks me off is that with the immaturity of a rejected preadolescent, he deleted the Scrabulous game we were in the middle of playing. Seriously? I guess its only tolerable to have a girl kick your ass repeatedly in a boardgame when you think you're going to get some action out of it.