the evil step-mother??? :confuzzle

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Are you a step mom? I had no idea!

Are you a step mom? I had no idea!

yes, she lives in another state, is 18-pregnant, living with her boyfriend who is like 26 or something (who her mother and grandmother let LIVE WITH THEM while she was only 16-17 years old- DUH), hasnt beeen in school since she was like 12 or something, and it's a looong ridiculous story! :lol

Luckily, as of this month, we are child support free! :woot

And yes, I am always the evil step-mom because unlike the family she lives with, DH and I actually care that she hasnt been in school and will be living off the system her entire life, that she has been TRYING to get pregnant since 15, sleeping with older men, diabetic and doesnt take her meds, etc.. We try and get her to change the way she is living...... so, yeah, I guess that makes me a horrible person (to her) :rolleyes

I feel like sometimes I'm nit picky - not initially, but as a result of things.....but then I think about it and the things I get upset about are normal...you know - I asked you to do something and you ignored me... or, I ask about something and only get 1/2 of what was really asked, then find out later the whole answer.... and then it escalates into being nit picky.... does that make sense??

Maybe it's the difference between girls and boys...maybe it's the age....I don't know...

Yep I have always felt like that. We are getting ready to see him again for the first time in almost 2 years and I'm hoping maybe things will change a little.

As bad as this sounds (and I know it sounds bad) but I sometimes feel a big relief that I'm not a step mother. It seems like a situation that is extremely hard to deal with and I've seen way too many things on here and also with my own step mom, that made me just feel a LOT of relief that Jason didn't have children prior to us meeting. Not like he could have b/c he was nearly a virgin :rofl but I honestly do not know how I would deal with the whole situation. You do what you have to do though and I know the kids are always worth it. It just seems very complicated and stressful :paranoid

I don't but his mother doesn't really let him come over to our house.

Yes, I do.

Most definitely, but I have to say I think I've been pretty lucky so far in their acceptance of me.