He also said he didn't want a girlfriend when we met......ahhh girlfriend.
He said he never wanted children......ahhh he self proclaimed my daughter as his daughter
He said he would NEVER move in with a girl unless he knew her for decades.....ahhhhh we moved in together two weeks ago.

He said he doesn't believe in marriage.......Well so far so true. Has not popped the question and I don't believe he ever will but hey, 3 out of 4 is not bad.......right???? :duh

I'm beginning to think I screwed myself over if I ever wanted that ring....We are now living together!! He has no motivation to marry me, he already has the cow at home....ME.... But I still want the ring, I still want to be introduced as his wife. I still want my happy ending.....:duh

So, does that make me selfish?????

Nah, that makes you normal!

that doesn't make you selfish at all! give him time and maybe he'll change his mind like he did with the other 3 things! :hugs

Well seems like everything else he didnt want to do he is doing so maybe the ring will be next ;) your completly normal hun.

Nah, that makes you normal!

DITTO!

Let's hope so. I'd hate to have him hold out on you. Men are weirdly fickle.

Let's hope so. I'd hate to have him hold out on you. Men are weirdly fickle.

I'm afraid of that too....What if I wait in the hopes that he will one day propose....what if he doesn't?

His parents were together for 15+ years without getting married but their relationship was full of drama...Cheating, drugs, alcohol things like that.

I have already prooven to him that our relationship is different since I lead a very clean and low key lifestyle and so does he.

It will come down to if I am happy with being with him forever and no ring....Or getting tired of waiting since to me a proposal is the true sign of coommittment. IDK the situation confuses and frustrates me sometimes.:arg

I'm afraid of that too....What if I wait in the hopes that he will one day propose....what if he doesn't?

His parents were together for 15+ years without getting married but their relationship was full of drama...Cheating, drugs, alcohol things like that.

I have already prooven to him that our relationship is different since I lead a very clean and low key lifestyle and so does he.

It will come down to if I am happy with being with him forever and no ring....Or getting tired of waiting since to me a proposal is the true sign of coommittment. IDK the situation confuses and frustrates me sometimes.:arg

Maybe you should propose to him instead? :P That'd really cut to the chase. Of course, if he's a slow mover, you might wait until he's settled into living with you for a bit. Too much change at once often freaks guys out.

not at all! i think that with the other 3 already happening it sounds like it may come to that one as well. :hugs

You know, my husband told me when we started dating that he would never get married again....after 3 years of dating - He popped the question. Give him time...if it's meant to be, it will happen.

You know, my husband told me when we started dating that he would never get married again....after 3 years of dating - He popped the question. Give him time...if it's meant to be, it will happen.

Thank you ladies for all of your support, I am glad of my decision to remain in this relationship. After all I am very happy in it. :attack I am just the kind of person (because of my history) that is afraid the people I love most will one day leave me. Getting married would mean (or at least to me) that he would never leave me. However, I do have to give him credit for all he has done thus far. I feel so much better. I needed to be reminded to be patient. :hugehug

If you really want to test his commitment, wax your upper lip in front of him. If he loves you, he'll stay.

:wink

If you really want to test his commitment, wax your upper lip in front of him. If he loves you, he'll stay.

:wink

:lmao:lmao:lmao:lmaoI could tell you of something worse that happend to us....and he stuck around but It's rated TVMA:lmao:lmao:lmao:lmao:lmao

lol

Time will tell..

My cousin has this theory that marriage is nothing but a ring and a piece of paper.. it took his girlfriend of four years walking out on him to make him change his mind..

If he succumbed to the other three though I'm sure he'll change his mind on the fourth too!

:goodvibes

Out of curiosity--how long have you been together? I hope he comes around.

Honestly, not too long. We have been together for 6 months....So I know that I am trippin. Since we had the whole marriage conversation (how we feel about it) and he expressed that he was NEVER going to go there, I thought to myself, I want marriage in the long run, if he never wants it I would have wasted IDK how many years. But for now, he shows me how much he loves me every single day and I am not going to push the subject. I am going to take the advice of all the girls and just wait patiently. He has been wonderful so far and I am not going to ruin that because I am the only one of my sisters who is not married.....among other reasons.

:puzzwell sounds like u have changed alot of his ways all ready. but i would set a time limt for your self what ever feels right to u then i would give have a kick in the butt it sounds like he cares for u. but from how he was raised he going to need that boost. guys are funny with the marrige thing.

:dunnoWe talked about it again last night....He used to get PISSED off at the subject (which also included the subject of having kids)....but he joked about no marriage but getting Iron Man type rings...(titanium gold)...So no marriage but wearing rings so that people knew we were committed to each other....And he was joking about how he was going to discipline our son (which we don't have and I am not pregnant)...So, it sounds to me that the idea of us increasing our family or committment level is not as frightening as it used to be...We'll see what happens:blush: