:beghey guys i need some advice my seven year old is in the first grade and at first was have trouble and not wanting to foces on his work it scared me at firt because have been tell me to get him tested for ADD but i dont think he his that bc he has a couison that dose and he is hiper but not the bad sometime wounder if its just matureing slow, are he just dose not want to do it. bc finally at the end of the school year his grades are picking up some what and i talk to his teacher and she thinks its him just not wanting to take the time and not wanting to slow down. she seens to think that holding him back this year will help alot, so he can mature. I think iam ok with it but I just hope that it will not make him made at me for holding he back. bc his friends or moving up.

Well, there is a lot of research both for and against holding kids back, much of it is negative (for the exact reason you mentioned). But ultimately it's your choice as a parent what you feel would be best for him. I work with remedial math students and I have seen a couple of very successful retentions since I've been in this position. Sometimes all a student needs is that extra year to catch on and mature. Good luck with your decision :hugs

Hi drangonflys, I feel your pain, just yesterday my daughter's teacher called me to tell me they think she should be held back. She told me the same thing about the maturity level. I think it will be tough at first but I really think it may actually help their confidence because when they go back next year and are mature enough to stay on task, focus and understand, their confidence level goes up because they will be doing so well in school. My approach with my daughter is going to be telling her that if she had not stayed in the 2nd grade we wouldn't be able to see how really smart she really is... I hope this helps. I also talked to some older friends and a few have told me they wished they did the same thing. Now their kids still in intermediate classes. Every child has their own pace, but sometimes... "slow and steady wins the race!"

Hi drangonflys, I feel your pain, just yesterday my daughter's teacher called me to tell me they think she should be held back. She told me the same thing about the maturity level. I think it will be tough at first but I really think it may actually help their confidence because when they go back next year and are mature enough to stay on task, focus and understand, their confidence level goes up because they will be doing so well in school. My approach with my daughter is going to be telling her that if she had not stayed in the 2nd grade we wouldn't be able to see how really smart she really is... I hope this helps. I also talked to some older friends and a few have told me they wished they did the same thing. Now their kids still in intermediate classes. Every child has their own pace, but sometimes... "slow and steady wins the race!"

Wow Diana I didn't know....Kind of reminds me of when we got held back to the first grade remember?? We started 2nd grade to young so our teachers felt it would be a good idea to go back to the first grade. I was so devastated but I quickly got over it. The kids were to young at the time to make fun of us for staying behind, and we did very well with kids our own age....

Wow Diana I didn't know....Kind of reminds me of when we got held back to the first grade remember?? We started 2nd grade to young so our teachers felt it would be a good idea to go back to the first grade. I was so devastated but I quickly got over it. The kids were to young at the time to make fun of us for staying behind, and we did very well with kids our own age....


Yeah, I forgot about that. We did do better staying back, ur right! I hope this helps dragonflys!