I have often wondered about peoples relationships with their former step-children if they end up divorcing.

I have a stepdaughter from my first marriage. My ex-husband rarely saw her, but we did have her in our home a few times for extended vacation periods. I hadn't seen her since 1999..... My ex-husband hadn't seen her either (she lives in NJ, he lives in MO) Anyway, the last two years, he's gotten closer with her, and he has seen her alot more. She ended up moving in with her grandmother (his mom) in TN - so he saw her quite frequently. She spends time over the holidays and spring break with him.... She now lives back with her mom in NJ....

It was awkward seeing her again, knowing I wasn't her step-mother anymore. We got along great! She is still part of the family, and I am happy to have her still in my life, even if it's only when she visits with her dad.

I've never had stepchildren but I did have a stepsister once. I found her on myspace recently and felt awkward because she's a grown woman now and probably doesn't even remember me (she was 2 when my mom and her father got together and 5 when they split up). I felt like messaging her but was afraid she wasn't going to know who I was. She used to be my "sister" and now she's a complete stranger...weird.

I'm kind of in that situation.

My dad (jerk) just left my stepmom, and honestly, I'd rather be around her than close to him. Not having a 'proud daughter' moment right now. But even so, my stepmom is a great woman, and she's been around for 15 years of my life, so she's always going to be family to me.