Hi everyone iam not a step mom but my boys have one. My ex and i have been devioce for six years and he married his wife right after our devioce somtimes I wounder if they were cheating with each other all the sign were there. BUt iam over that now and they have a son and iam happily remarried to a great man and we have a daughter together. But me and the boys step mom are having trouble get alone. I have trouble with some of the things they do to the boys. when it is their weekend and they take them to the beach they do not put suntan lostion on them and they get burn and i have to take care of it. they come home staving and the boys tell me they have ate since the morning little things like that bug me and i want to say something but i feel it would cause a fight. i want to be friend a fix the problems but am just buggin out or should i say somthing :no

Hi everyone iam not a step mom but my boys have one. My ex and i have been devioce for six years and he married his wife right after our devioce somtimes I wounder if they were cheating with each other all the sign were there. BUt iam over that now and they have a son and iam happily remarried to a great man and we have a daughter together. But me and the boys step mom are having trouble get alone. I have trouble with some of the things they do to the boys. when it is their weekend and they take them to the beach they do not put suntan lostion on them and they get burn and i have to take care of it. they come home staving and the boys tell me they have ate since the morning little things like that bug me and i want to say something but i feel it would cause a fight. i want to be friend a fix the problems but am just buggin out or should i say somthing :no


Where's their DAD??? You should take those issues up with HIM.

Thats the thing I have talked to him and he just blews me off iam not tring to be mean i just want then both to know i did like this stuff. i know its a touchy subject i dont mean to affend anyone

Thats the thing I have talked to him and he just blews me off iam not tring to be mean i just want then both to know i did like this stuff. i know its a touchy subject i dont mean to affend anyone

I don't think she was offended. The point is that your son's father should be willing to listen to your concerns about their visits. It's a sensitive situation because time with their Dad is exactly that "his time." Unless your children are in immediate danger, you really don't have much control over it. All you really can do is voice your concerns calmly, but pick your battles wisely. How old are your children? If you pack a bag for them make sure that you put sunscreen in it and remind your children and their father that it is there. Or if you are dropping them off and know there is a possibility they will be outdoors apply sunscreen before they go for visitation.
As for the eating thing I've been through this. My stepkids always act like they are starving when we get them. They will tell us they haven't eaten when in fact they have. Kids just do that sometimes.I think it's a different house different rules thing because they know their dad will make them something. I doubt your ex would truly let them starve. I hate to say it but sometimes you will have to grin and bear it. Everyone parents differently and unfortunately in a step situation we have to relinquish some of our control and allow the other parent to do it their way. I have to send my kids to their dad and it's hard but I have to stay out of it.

Thats the thing I have talked to him and he just blews me off iam not tring to be mean i just want then both to know i did like this stuff. i know its a touchy subject i dont mean to affend anyone

No offense taken. It works better if the parents are communicating. Just let him know about your concerns. There's nothing wrong with your issues you are having with him - you just want your kids taken care of.

THANKS SO MUCH!! thats what i been doing. He comes and picks them up and drops them back of. They are 7 and 5 and i just worrie about them

We all worry about our kids. It just means your a good mom. Just keep doing what you can and try to squeeze in some "me" time when he has the kids. Get a sitter for your baby and have a date with your man. They will be ok.