to make things special for your LDR?

When one of us was deployed, we wrote snail mail letters as often as we could and did a lot of things like slideshows of pictures set to music.... also we sent care packages to each other which was always a really special thing. I sent Joe a lot of pictures while he was deployed and did a lot of things like Glamour Shots portraits and stuff for him ;)

We just made our relationship a priority during the deployments and treated everything like it was special.... that's what made all the difference!

When my ex was deployed we managed to write nearly-daily e-mails (he was hooked up since he had his own computer in his tent/office - and otherwise he'd wait in long lines for me). I sent care packages once a month with little things that I knew he'd enjoy. I'd send big bags of Starbucks Coffee over that he shared with the wardroom and Costco-sized containers of Hot Balls that everyone ate when they came by. When he was living down south, I sent him a big box of homemade Christmas cookies that he shared with his roommate. I think that its not just about supporting your man, but thinking of the people around him too - being involved in his life, in spite of the distance. That's definitely important.

We picked up a book that I recommended in an earlier post that was about surviving an LDR. It had lots of quizzes and activities that you could do together. It had a lot of great suggestions about written letters being just as important as e-mails. But just having someone that wants to hear about the little things, how your day went, was always the most important part for me. It was almost like coming home to him when we picked up the phone at night.

I agree on the photos too - I'd photograph all the cool stuff I did or bought, so that he got to experience them too. Keeping up that constant communication, sharing the normal day-to-day stuff really created a good foundation.

before me and my x broke up (we had been together since high school) i started making a scrapbook for him of all the places that we had been since we were together and had a story to go with all of them.

If something happened, then i would e-mail him and let him know so i wouldn't forget to tell him, no matter how small...

I like the phone calls right before bed...its sweet to be laying in bed thinking about him, talking to him...its almost like he's there. And then wishing each other goodnight and talking about how much you love/miss each other.

Short and sweet phonecalls in the morning are nice if you schedules coincide. Just a little good morning and have a good day.

Some people like cards or e-cards. But DF isn't into that kind of stuff. :dunno

all of my LDR never worked out in the end, so I guess no matter what I did, it didn't work.

well since most of my relationships have been long distance. Hell my xFiance was deployed 11 months out of every year

we communicate as much as we can. I do not complain if he can only get online or call me at 2 or 3 am, and he appreciates the overflow of mail that he gets. IT seems to work really well.

we communicate as much as we can. I do not complain if he can only get online or call me at 2 or 3 am, and he appreciates the overflow of mail that he gets. IT seems to work really well.

that is what happened with us, i never minded the early morning phone calls, and he got a lot of mail too.

when he is gone we text and call each other as much as we can. care packages are the best. try to never fight, talk threw issues and never end a call without saying "i love you"