Had pressure and questions about when you're getting married from friends and family every pushed you and your partner farther and farther away from that stage? Almost like the more people suggested it, the less you went in that direction?

My siblings all used to pesture Paul and I about why we waited so long to get married and would tease us relentlessly about it. I remember at a Thanksgiving dinner one year, they were all ragging me and I finally had enough. I told them that just because they were comfortable being in relationships for a few months before being married, didn't mean I would do the same thing. That unlike them, I actually wanted to get to know my partner inside and out, before making the huge step towards marriage.

It was nice, on my wedding day, my brothers apologized for being asses and always pushing marriage on us, stating that they realized that we did it at our OWN pace, which ended up being six and a half years! :)

No pressure here, nobody really wanted us to get married. My family was stuck on me marrying this other guy and DH's family didn't think he should ever marry anyone. But they were all ecstatic when we told them we were getting married.

We got no pressure... But we always knew we would do it anyway.

I wish someone would pressure my boyfriend that way it won't be me the one pressuring him and he will pop the question. I want to marry my boyfriend more than anything!

No. DF was the first one to mention marriage...and it was fairly early in our relationship. So our family and friends were actually somewhat shocked when we first started talking about marriage.

My siblings all used to pesture Paul and I about why we waited so long to get married and would tease us relentlessly about it. I remember at a Thanksgiving dinner one year, they were all ragging me and I finally had enough. I told them that just because they were comfortable being in relationships for a few months before being married, didn't mean I would do the same thing. That unlike them, I actually wanted to get to know my partner inside and out, before making the huge step towards marriage.

It was nice, on my wedding day, my brothers apologized for being asses and always pushing marriage on us, stating that they realized that we did it at our OWN pace, which ended up being six and a half years! :)


That's nice that the apologized later! I'm with you...I can't imagine getting married just after a few months. I would not be comfortable with that. But like you said..everyone moves at their own pace!

We got no pressure... But we always knew we would do it anyway.
Same here

That's nice that the apologized later! I'm with you...I can't imagine getting married just after a few months. I would not be comfortable with that. But like you said..everyone moves at their own pace!

It was very nice that they apologized later since I felt that I was being bombarded by all of them. I really felt that us waiting 6 1/2 years was right for us. I couldn't have imagined marrying Paul after only knowing him for 8 months, which is what my younger brother did. I hardly knew him then.

Im not sure if it drove us away, it just made us feel like we had to get married in a way.

We had no pressure at all! Truthfully both of our parents were very happy.
Now we did have some friends say that we would never last that long. We will be celebrating our 9 year anniversary this September.