Hands Full
06-17-2008, 03:04 PM
I didn't know where to put this but I figured here was a good spot since Child Support is an aftermath of parting ways.
My daughter was born July 1, 2005. Her father met her when she was two months old. He said he felt no connection with her because she was too light skinned and didn't look like him...(hmmm I'm light skinned and she looks like me) I filed for Child Support in August of 2005 in Virginia. Well two years later there was no resolution. He moved to the Virgin Islands and Virginia cancelled my claim because The Virgin Islands were out of their jurisdiction. Then he moved back to the states and joined the Navy (again). In January of 2008 (shortly after his return) I filed for Child Support here in San Diego. They filed a recommended order to begin February 1, 2008 for $519. However, he never paid a dime (big surprise). Well yesterday (June 16, 2008) I went to court. And to my big surprise he was there. So here I am in a room with my ex and my current boyfriend. My ex who didn't even know when his daughter was born and my current boyfriend whom my daughter calls daddy. After reviewing his income the court decided that he was to pay $901! But it was too early to celebrate.
He told the judge that he was married but seperated (huh! I never knew that, he told me he was divorced)
He told the judge that he has three kids with his wife (huh! I thought he only had one kid)
And he claims all of his BAH goes to her (huh! I was in the military and I know that unless it is court ordered you do not have to hand over your BAH to anyone)
So he fought for his 3 hardships.........and got them.
So I go home with an order of $515 for child support. I should be happy because it's better than nothing but I pay $500 a month in daycare alone.
And then after almost 3 years he sends me a text asking me if he could see his daughter :puzz. I said no. Sorry but my daughter is old enough to know who her daddy is and a stranger calling himself her daddy is not going to cut it for her. I think that at this point in our lives if you want visitation, get it court ordered because my daughter isn't going anywhere with you. Go and visit with your three other kids and leave my baby alone. You didn't want her then so why now? Thanks for the daycare money pal, now I'll be able to use my own money to fill up the house with groceries without reservations or maybe even take Alaina to the zoo or to Disneyland or something that we have never been able to do because for three years I have endured every single expense that comes with raising a child. Thanks a lot!!!!! :sigh
If you got this far............Thanks for reading :carryon
My daughter was born July 1, 2005. Her father met her when she was two months old. He said he felt no connection with her because she was too light skinned and didn't look like him...(hmmm I'm light skinned and she looks like me) I filed for Child Support in August of 2005 in Virginia. Well two years later there was no resolution. He moved to the Virgin Islands and Virginia cancelled my claim because The Virgin Islands were out of their jurisdiction. Then he moved back to the states and joined the Navy (again). In January of 2008 (shortly after his return) I filed for Child Support here in San Diego. They filed a recommended order to begin February 1, 2008 for $519. However, he never paid a dime (big surprise). Well yesterday (June 16, 2008) I went to court. And to my big surprise he was there. So here I am in a room with my ex and my current boyfriend. My ex who didn't even know when his daughter was born and my current boyfriend whom my daughter calls daddy. After reviewing his income the court decided that he was to pay $901! But it was too early to celebrate.
He told the judge that he was married but seperated (huh! I never knew that, he told me he was divorced)
He told the judge that he has three kids with his wife (huh! I thought he only had one kid)
And he claims all of his BAH goes to her (huh! I was in the military and I know that unless it is court ordered you do not have to hand over your BAH to anyone)
So he fought for his 3 hardships.........and got them.
So I go home with an order of $515 for child support. I should be happy because it's better than nothing but I pay $500 a month in daycare alone.
And then after almost 3 years he sends me a text asking me if he could see his daughter :puzz. I said no. Sorry but my daughter is old enough to know who her daddy is and a stranger calling himself her daddy is not going to cut it for her. I think that at this point in our lives if you want visitation, get it court ordered because my daughter isn't going anywhere with you. Go and visit with your three other kids and leave my baby alone. You didn't want her then so why now? Thanks for the daycare money pal, now I'll be able to use my own money to fill up the house with groceries without reservations or maybe even take Alaina to the zoo or to Disneyland or something that we have never been able to do because for three years I have endured every single expense that comes with raising a child. Thanks a lot!!!!! :sigh
If you got this far............Thanks for reading :carryon